Talane’s Blog of the Week, October 8, 2007

Attraction Principle #11
The Power of Thought

Back to the basic law of attraction, Like Attracts Like. If you examine this law a bit closer, it really boils down to “like thoughts attract like thoughts.” If you have negative thoughts you will attract negative things to you and if you have positive thoughts you’ll attract positive people and opportunities your way. But, you have to be careful. You can’t just slap a positive thought on top of a negative thought and expect it to work miracles. This is why positive affirmations sometimes work and sometimes don’t. You have to eliminate all underlying sources of negativity or it just won’t work because the negative thought will cancel out the positive one.

Here is a typical example: one client wanted to have a great relationship. She liked the idea of having someone to share life with, to enjoy things together and she could imagine this in a positive light. At the same time, another part of her was worried that if she got into a relationship, she would lose the freedom and control she had over her life. This part of her, her very real need for freedom and independence, was keeping her from reaching her goal of being in a relationship. Rather than start looking around for an eligible mate, the first step was to address her need for independence and to completely fulfill this need so that it effectively disappears and doesn’t prevent her from attracting a relationship. And, she needed to experience the fact that being in a relationship doesn’t necessarily restrict your freedom. In fact, with the right partner, you may feel more freed up to do what you want to do. One of my own needs is independence so I set about becoming as independent as I possibly could. I owned my own car, house and business and could do whatever I wanted. Except for one thing, I didn’t want to have children without a loving and supportive husband. Now that I’m married and have two little munchkins, I’m especially glad to have his support as it has enabled me to enjoy being a mother and get at least some sleep! And, having my husband’s support has helped me relax about my finances knowing that I’m not the sole provider. This has freed me up to focus on riskier ventures and more creative projects, such as another book. I won’t be the first woman to say there isn’t much freedom when you have kids (travelling is much trickier for one thing), but since it was my choice to have children, I was prepared for this going into it. What I didn’t expect was how much freer I feel married now that I have a truly wonderful, supportive man in my life.

What negative thoughts are blocking you from reaching your biggest goals and dreams? Challenge your assumptions. Eliminate negativity at its source and you are on your way!

Enjoy!
Talane